Ten characteristics of a successful relationship

I read this article and liked it kinda... So am posting it here..
Lisa Brookes Kift is a Marriage & Family Therapist working with individuals and couples in San Diego, California. She is also the author of other articles on relationships and mental health issues. This article is written by her. She talks about ten characteristics of a really good and healthy relationships.

The ten characteristics are as follows and are in no particular order:

1) Friendship: Couples who have a strong friendship have staying power. They not only love each other but genuinely like each other as people. They enjoy hanging out together. They might even consider each other their “best friend.”

2) Humor: Partners who can make each other laugh tend to be good at de-escalating conflicts when they do arise. It’s the great mood lightener. I’ve noticed the use of funny nicknames can be an indicator of great fondness for one another. The names often stem from a “you had to be there” moment from the beginning of their relationship.

3) Communication: As obvious as this may seem, many couples are not very good at it. Those who are able to openly express their feelings in an emotionally safe environment typically deal with situations as they come up and avoid burying frustrations which always have a way of coming out at some point.

4) Chore Sharing: Those who divvy up the household or parenting responsibilities in a way that is mutually agreed upon way are less likely to hold resentments about what they perceive as “unfair.” Each participates (albeit maybe begrudgingly) and both contribute to the relationship in this way.

5) Sexual Intimacy: Couples who have their sexual needs met or at least have negotiated a reasonable compromise if their levels of need aren’t compatible, feel taken care of by the other. Some are highly active, engaging in lovemaking multiple times a week and others are content with far less. There is no “right” or “wrong” amount. However, often times a negotiation is needed to make sure no one feels neglected by the other.

6) Affection: Partners who stay in physical contact in some way throughout the day have appeared to be the happiest ones. These moments don’t need to necessarily lead to sexual intimacy but are rather easy ways to say, “I love you,” without the words. These moments can be invaluable, especially these days when everyone seems to be racing around to get “somewhere.” Whether it’s a hug, kiss, swat on the rear, tussle of the hair or a sit on the lap, these acts of affection keep couples connected when life gets crazy.

7) No “Horsemen of the Apocalypse:” This is a term coined by a famous couples researcher named John Gottman (The Gottman Institute -) who claims to be able to predict divorce with incredible accuracy. His “four horsemen of the apocalypse” are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. His research has shown that couples who demonstrate a high level of these in their relationships are in big trouble.

8) Mutual and Separate Friends: Partners who socialize with other couples and also maintain separate friendships have greater balance in regards to honoring themselves as individuals, within the relationship. This leads to more self satisfaction which translates to relationship satisfaction.

9) Reliability: Most of us want follow-through with our friendships and our partners. If couples do what they say and say what they do, they create an atmosphere of comfort in knowing their words mean something to the other.

10) Relationship Vision: It’s interesting the number of couples I’ve seen who don’t seem to have the big picture of their relationship in mind. Where do they see themselves in ten year? What are their relationship goals? Couples who have created a relationship vision for themselves know where they’re going as they’ve planned it together. They get joy out of reaching for their goals as a team and are less likely to be derailed by surprises down the line.

Chetan Bhagat’s Speech at Symbiosis,Pune

I jus loved this speech and so I am just posting this wonderful delivery! :)

Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated. The first day in college is one of them. When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates - there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.

Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party – several months in advance – just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.

I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost. So how to save the spark?

Imagine the spark to be a lamp's flame. The first aspect is nurturing - to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.

To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn't any external measure - a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.

Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn't the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won't be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday? They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them feel alive Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.

Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature's design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.

You must have read some quotes - Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school, where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.

One last thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice. The teacher said - don't be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It's ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.

I've told you three things - reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.

Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don't go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades – how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it's life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember - if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that's where you want to be.

Disappointment' s cousin is Frustration, the second storm. Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don't know if you chose the right goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to a release. Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic assessment of the time involved – movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result – at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan – I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life - friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.

Unfairness - this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it – not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards. Let's be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don't. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don't get literary praise. It's ok. I don't look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It's ok. Don't let unfairness kill your spark.

Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is Isolation. As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.

There you go. I've told you the four thunderstorms - disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.

I welcome you again to the most wonderful years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying - I come from the land of a billion sparks.

Thank You.

Chetan Bhagat

A rendezvous....

...with Kids.

This Sunday happened to be a really jolly day. Spending time with kids always gives us sheer happiness taking us back to our own sweet childhood days. So was this Sunday for me. We got an opportunity to take some kids of a tamil medium govt school in a village called Kovur, a 38 of them, out for an educational trip (it turned out to be a full fun-trip for them, for all of us actually!). Thanks to Divya for the amazing opportunity. Divya teaches for 17 of those kids (of diff age groups) every Saturday. Teach India is an organization moderated by Times of India. She’s registered with the organization and Kovur was allocated for her. MACT is the NGO responsible for that village that takes care of all the needs of those kids. Divya had planned to take them to the Planetarium and made arrangements with the help of this organization MACT. They helped arrange the van and the snacks for the kids. Thanks to Aish n Nachi for inviting me to be a part of it. At 1 in the afternoon I joined the group in the van at Nandambakam to be greeted by those kids with smiling faces. They started screaming ‘good morning ma’am’ n ‘ hi ma’am ’in excitement. Ha ha I was excited too! Got introduced to them and learnt a few names of the mischievous lot. We picked up Sowmya on the way and reached Planetarium by 2. Got the tickets for the 3.45 show there and took the kids to the sci-park there. They were all so excited and played happily. We were absolutely elated in turn, watching them play around happily! We watched a 10 minute 3D video then which made me scream along with the kids esp when the serpent came towards me! God, that was really frightening. At 3.45, the show began. The ambience of that place and the projector at the centre of the room and the hemispherical screen everything made them excited all over again. They were fascinated and were attentive for almost 10 minutes when the basics about the solar system and the planets were stated. Later they couldn’t understand much of what was being said and almost every1 of us felt sleepy!;)

It was almost 5 by the time the show got over and we distributed them their snacks and chocolates, so it was decided to take them back to their place. But the kids insisted on staying and visiting the children’s park or some other place. There wasn’t much time left so we just took them to the Gandhi mandapam that was nearby and clicked pics with them there. The fall of dusk reminded us that it was time to bid goodbye to them. End of the day there was a genuine smile on everybody’s face and you know what magical impact any kid’s smile can bestow on us. Though minding the children and heeding to their needs seemed to be a strenuous exercise but then it was all fun and the contentment and gratification we felt end of the day is just indescribable! And thanks to those amazing kids for they just made my day!:)

Signing off,
Happy Me:)

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Those memories...

Saturday night my sis left to kodaikanal. School tour. I miss her. Our house seems to be noticeably silent. No mess or fuss here. Especially during nights I miss my roommate. We (me n sis) usually lay there in the bed staring at the stars on the ceiling, prattling late in the night and then the fighting for the ipod, arguing about which song should be played next. Last 2 nights I had to sleep alone with nobody to bicker on some crap. I just lay there reading a book till 1.30 or so last night until my eyes started burning. I just fell asleep then.

And Saturday we went to the station to send her off. I met few of my school teachers there. Most of teachers now in school are new. So I dint know many of them. The train left egmore at 9.15 p.m and there were goodbyes to parents and relatives from the students. It’s just a 3 day trip yet I could find some of them fighting back their tears (both the kids and their parents). So were my sis and mom. Parents worried about their child’s safety. Throwing all their advices to their kid. Dad had a couple of them for ma sis too. That was funny. Don’t go near the door when the train is moving fast. Don’t go anywhere without informing your teachers. Don’t loiter around without your comrades’ company and all that. The coupe in which sis had her seat was all fuss. Students moving in and out, screaming at the top of their voice, discussing who’s going to sit with whom, carrying their bags from one seat to another. Lot of confusion prevailed. But still there was fun-filled around that place. It’s their 1^st tour with their classmates so they were all anxious, I could see. When the train started to move we waved to her, told her to take care and be careful, to call as soon as they boarded their rooms n Kodai and settled. The girls started screaming and shouting with all their joy. The ambience of that place reminded me of my own experiences- Our school tour in 11^th to Hyd and during 12^th to Kodai and also the college tours to B’lore, Mysore and Ooty in 3^rd year and to Kerala in final. Every tour is unforgettable in its own way. I’ve visited all those places before with my family but then these tours with friends are totally different, aren’t they? It’s totally anew and a super-learning experience. You get to know your friends better. You get to know a lot about the people around you (previously you may think you know everything about them but then your experience in the tour may prove it diff!) I hope some of my friends will comprehend what I mean right! You also learn to adjust with a lot of things. It’s all good and fun! Sema experience !

And I miss them now! :(

I miss everything.. I miss school. I miss college. I miss being a student. I miss my friends. I miss those good times we had.

So I get back home at 10 or so and search for my photos DVD and have a look at all the pics clicked during my college tours. But I couldn’t get hold of the school tour snaps then as they are in some photo album in the cup-board. Now, I am going to have a look them to reminiscence those memories.:)

Signing off,

Krithi

Subbu's Story --> Part 3

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“Avangalukulam varalam da… but unaku love varum nu soldra paathiya adhu kizhakula udhikra sooriyan meakula udhikra madri… Sari mani pathaaga pogudhu innum enna unaku thookam… endhiri da naaye” ena en room mate kavin ezhuppiya podhu dan therindadhu anaithum kanavu endru…

“Maapla appo ellam kanava… dei kanavula kooda enakellam kaadhal failure dan da aagudhu… ayyayo kaalai kanavu palichira pogudhu da…”

“Kaalaila kanavu kanda palikum da mapla… but madhiyam aagaradhuku oru Mani neram munnadi kaandra kanavellam palikadhu… sari enaku oppiceku time aagudhu… rooma pootitu olunga kulichi kelambra vazhiya paaru… Kaadhal keedhal nu ellam suthadha… Varava” endru roomai saathi vittu poi vittan en college nanban… indru americavil periya velayil iruppavan…

“Sollitaaru Governoru… Po da po… kaadhalichale ippadi thaan… kanda naayellam advice pannumnu manickam sonnadhu correcta thaan iruku ena oru vazhiyaga ezhundhu kaalai kadangalai mudithu vittu padu smart-aga roommate venkat vaangi vaithirundha pudhu basics sattayai styleaga maati kondu, Perfume-il meendum oru murai kulithu vittu... Aaradhanavai ninaithu kondae Kangal irandaal songai ketu kondae roomai pooti vitu cab varum road-il wait panni kondirundhaen…”

Cab door-ai thirandhaal, En kangal irandal paatil varum Aaradhana... ennada unmayave kaadhala vizhundhutoma... yaara paathalum aaradhana madriye theriyudhu ena viyappudan avalai paarthaen... meiyalume adhu aaradhana dhaanga... Black color chudi la fridge lendhu edutha apple madri fresha irundha… As usual

“Hey vat a surprise yaar... I heard someone named Duwaragai gonna accompany me till the office. But how come you here?”

Aaha... Iva kooda poradhellam nalla daan irukum... But Ava pesra englipish dan... Appo dan patha vacha kingsa 2 puff adikradhukulla, pakkathu veetu kaaran varane nu apdiye keela poatu anaikkum bodhu vara kastam madri iruku... Enna pandradhu pesithaana aaganum... Vazhakamana ilippudan,

“Ya ya... My name is Duwaragai rajan only, friend’s shorta rajan nu koopduvanga” endraen...

“Very good tamil name pa... I like it... so me gonna call you duwaragai hereafters... Is that Ok for you”...

Tamizha Peru vacha pudikumam... But tamizha pesradhu pudikadham... Ivala maathi aaganum... illati namba kadha velaikaagadu... solliruvom ena... “Adhellam ok daan, neenga ipdi englishla pesradhu daan Ok illa... Nagercoil dana native, Edho norwaylaendhu vandha velinaatu thoodhar madri pesreenga...” ena strait porwardaga avalidam sollivitaen... enna pandradhu... vera vazhi illaye...

Pace reaction light a maariduchi... But appavum en aalu azhaga than irundha...”Illa duwaragai, Adhu apdiye pazhagiduchi... Ok ini naan tamizhaye pesran... ok va...”

Appppada ippodan konjam relax aanen... “Neenga enga thangirukeenga...”

“Madhya Kailash oppositela small street varume... adhula 2nd street... oh sorry, rendavadhu sandhu...”

“Helllo... idhu konjam 2 much... engalaku oralavuku English theriyum...”

“Ayyo duwaragai... Was just kidding yaar... ok let’s change the topic... Hmmm... Sollunga Duwaragai Sir... ungaluku ennellam pudikum...”

Apdiye leftla window vazhiya veliya pona sooper figure a paathukite... “Idho indha madri azhagana ponnunga pona, vacha kannu vaangama paakradhu pudikum...”

“Ipdi ponnungala paakradhu thappillaya duwaragai...”

“Ponnungala paakradhu thappilla machi... Thappa paakradhu daan thappu...”

“Hey wow... sooper explanation po... Sari enna pudikadhu sollu”

“Hmmm... Thanniya waste pandradu pudikave pudikadhu...”

“Unmayava... Environment mela unaku avvalavu akkaraya...”

“Ayyo, neenga thappa purinjindael... Naan sonnadhu kudikra thanni illa, adikra thanni... ippo paarungalaen... 3 ber seandhu full adikalam nu plan panni 2 round adichadukapparam, illa machan... enaku podhum... Neenga adinga nu escape aavanungale, appo meedhi iruka thanni waste a poida koodadhaen kasta pattu matha 2 Baer adippom paarunga... adhanala enga health dana waste a pogudhu... so adha than sonnan” endraen sirithu kondae...

“Crazy yaar... Apparam one more thing... indha neenga vaanga ponga ellam vendam... u can speak casually”

“Neenga epdi englishla pesitu, tamizha pesa kasta padreengalo, adhe madri naanum takkunu maaradhu kastam... poga poga pazhagirum... ok va di”

“Hey idhu 2 much da... Casuala pesu podhum...”

“Saringa madam...” Sari Ava kaeta madri namba ennatha kaekradhunu yosikka aarambicha, yosichi mudikradhukulla oppice-a vandhurum... so Ava kaetadhaye nambalum kaetruvom ena

“Sari unaku enna pudikum, pudikadhu nu soldradhu”

“Eppavume sirichitrukadhu pudikum... Eppavume sirichitrukavangala rumba pudikum...” Ai jolly, 1st ballaye sixer adicha oru sandhosham... namba daan eppavume luse madri sirichitruppome... so nambala kandippa pudichu pogum... sooper da ena ulla sandhosathai adakki kondu, lighta sirichi kondae... “Pudikadhadhu?” endraen

“Well Poi soldradhu suthama pudikaadhu... Poi soldravanga suthama irundhalum pudikadhu” Aaha... Sixer adicha adutha ball-e clean bowled Pannitale... maatnom da... ippadiye ondrarai mani neram Maniratanam, ARRehman, Sachin Tendulkar ena pala prabangal meendum engal conversation-il prabalam adaindhanar... Silar padu kevalamaga thittum vaanginar...Oru vazhiyaga, iruvarum avaluku puditha madiri sirithu pesi kondae office vandhom...

Swipe in panni vittu appadiye lobby in sofa vil mudhal murayaga oru azhagana (Boss boss plz boss adikadi azhagana ponnu nu potukran boss... atleast storylayavadhu en figure azhaga irukatume) azhagana ponnudan amarndhaen. Eppodhum naan eppozhudhum sight adikum Kutti Sims chumma gummunu oru red color sareela, soak-a nadandhu vandhutrundha... as usual vaaya polandhukitu paathutu, right la thirumbuna namba figure nambala vacha kannu vaangama paathutruku...

“Enna matter aradhana... ipdi paakra” endraen ondrum ariya kuzhandhai pola...

“illa... eppavume ipdi paathukite thaan iruppiya... poi pesanumnu ellam thonadha... nee poi pesna kandippa endha figurea irundhalum unaku ok aagum da... Sari ippo nee paathiye... andha ponnu kita idhu varaikum nee pesirukiya...

“Pesnadhilla... aaana nalla sight adichirukan...”

“Adhu dan nee paakum bodhe theriyudhe... Sari unaku oru chinna test... nee ava kitta poi enna pesuvanu theriyadhu... but avala sirika vaikanum... ok va... endral kutti sims-ai kaati”

“Ennadhu test a... ingerundhe avala kalaika sollu... chumma 200 mark vaangi pass pandran... indha naerla poi pesra kadha ellam namaku set aagadhu... aala vidunga...”

“Plz plz plz da... enakaga... ava anga chumma dana ninnutruka... enakaga poi pesu da... chumma jus for fun”

Ivalunga jollyku namba pogo tv aaga vendiyadiruku... enna pandradhu... namba figure aache... vaeru vazhi illamal, eadho aval ennai collector aaga sonnadhu pol… avaluku thumbs up kaati vittu appadiye vetkame illamal Tie adjust seidhu kondae kutti sims ai noaki nadandhaen...

“Excuse me, Unga Peru Mahalakshmi-ya?”

“Illaye. Yaen”

“Illa... Paakradhuku mahalakshmi madri irukeengale.. Adan kaetan... Freeya vidunga”

Vetka pattu lesaga sirithu kondae,” I am Sundari” endral...

“Azhagu Sundari nu vachirukalam... Anyways, I am Rajan, Duwaragai Ragan... Eadho paathadhum pesanumnu thonichi, Adhan... But naan sonna matter unma dan... Sari ok nga... Apparam meet pannuvom bye”

“Dats ok, Bye” endral sirithu kondae...

Kutti Sims, sorry, azhagu sundari lift ulle sendru meendum thirumbi oru look vutta paarunga... Century aditha effect... styleaga aaradhana arugil vandhu amarndhaen... “Eppidra.. andha ponnu sirichite pora... Enna da sonna”

“Unmaya sonnan” endraen Thalaivar style-il.

Sundariyidam naan pesiyadhai indha azhaga sundari keatadhum appadi oru viyappu, appadi oru sirippu... “Chance a illa po... Kalakra da... nee ivlo naal ponnunga kita pesama waste pannita... atleast iniyavadhu ella ponnunga kitayum pesu... ok va... kurippa unnoda kutti sims kita pesu... work out aaidum...” ena naan workout panna ninaikum aaradhana enaku advise seidhal...

“Sari naan namba building ku poran, nee variya...” endral...

“Yaenga, test ellam vacheenga...adhan pass aaitan la... medal edhum kedayadha”

“idhu jus trailer ma... edhachum ponna love panni main film kaatu medal enna cup e tharan”

“Sari unga medal ellam onnum venam... neenga ponga ... naan pasangala paathutu varan”

“Dhum adikka poranu straightave sollalame... Sari ok... u carry on... edhum urgenta kooptanga na i ll call you... Ok va...”

“Ok... tata” ena sollivittu edhiril vandha kutti sims-ai meedum oru murai paarthu sirithu vittu naera smoking zone ku poi patra vaikran... Aaradhana vidam irundhu call...

Adhana paathan namba kita pesama chellathala iruka mudiyadhe...

“Sollu Aaradhana...”

“Duwaragai, one good news da... namba projectla namba teama 4a split pannirukanga... Me, you and Pavithra 3 berum orae team... sooper la... and at 3 o clock Paartha ll give us a short KT, so be der in time... Am so lucky da... 2 maasam jollya un kooda eppavume pesitrukalam...”

Aaaha... idhu naan solla vendiya dialog aache... enna iva soldra... oru vela avalukum namba mela oru kanno... Dey duwagarai, getha maintain pannu...”Ok ok... naan vandhudran” ena avalidam silentaaga sollivitu phoneai cut seidhaen... ayyo mapla kavin innaiku un mogathla daan muzhichan... really nee andha ennai paar yogam varum photola iruka kazhudha madri da... sema lucky guy... Sari namba figurea paaka povom ena adutha flashil B2 confrence room kadhavai thirandhaen...

Azhagaga amarndhu styleaga spoonil saapitu kondirundhal...

Lonely place, beautipul gal, chilled AC room...orae romantic moodil aval arugil sendru... miga arugil sendru,”Innum yaarum varala” endraen...

“illa da chellam... nee vandhutiye, adhuve enaku podhum” – nu solluva nu paatha...

“Dayavu senju Duwaragai, inime smoke pannitu vandha mint edhachum poatutu vaa plz... i don’t like this smell...”

Takkunu kovam vandhalum, sari namba figure kiss eadhum expect pannudhu pola, adhan ipdi pesudhu ena positive aga eduthu kondae “Oh sorry, inime poadran” endraen...

“Taste pandriya...” endru aval saapittu kondirundha andha spoonai ennidam neetinal paakanume... Enakul orae romance peel... “Illa peravala venam...” endraen vetkathil...

“Hello unna taste daan panna sonnan, saapda sollala”

Oh chellam namaku ooti vida pora pola ena peridhai vaayai thirandhaen... Ada enna aacharyam... aval saapitta adhaey spoonil namaku ooti vita paakanume... ennalaye namba mudiyala... noodles avvalavo inippaga irundhadhu... Sweet gal saaptadhu aache...

Enna solvadhendrae theriyamal “soooper kalakita po, endha hotela vaanguna”

“Hey naane senjan da...nallarukka” endral

“Comedy pannadha aaradhana... noodles ivlo soopera iruku... nee senjanu soldra“

“Hey luse idhu fried rice da and promise, naan daan da senjan... i m a very good cook you know...”

“Kaekravan kaena payala irundha thirukural ezhudunadhu thiruppachi director nu solluva pola”

“Eppavo ezhuduna thirukurala thiruvalluvar daan ezhudinar nu nambuva, but innaiku naan dan pannanu sonna namba maatela... cha... get lost man”

Enna da pigure kochikudhu... over act kudthutoma... sari sari moadhala dan kaadhale start aagum ena ippavum silentaaga sirithu kondae... “Freeya vidu machi... chumma dan sonnan” enbadharkul...

Glass door vazhiyaga veliye paarthu kondae... “Hey pavithra is coming... i ll keep the fight after sometime man...but i wont leave you” endral...

Sari pavithra yaarunu nambalum paapome ena apdiye door vazhiya paatha... namba paint adicha panni... “Ada indha paint adicha panni daan pavithra va... sooper po” ena asattu sirippudan aaradhanavai paarthal... Aedho avanga akkava kevalama pesna madri oru mora morachite enna paatha... Sari innum noodles matterlaye namba mela kovathla iruka pola... poga poga sari aagidum ena freeya vittan...

Adutha sila nimidangalil paarthavum vandhan... eadho mokka poatan... namba as usual padikra pulla madri pace a vachikitu koil maadu duty, adhanga mandaya aatradha pannikitu ukkandrundhom... nalla vela, indha dhaba nambala pesa sollala… CTRL F poatu avan vaayil eppoadhu Ok bye varum ena thaedi kondirundhaen... Oru vazhiyaga Ok bye keep doing good work ena paartha S aanan... aala vidra saami ena ezhundhom... Vandha annaike namba pavithra paarthaku soap poda aarambichiruchi... avan koodaye sirichite poiduchi... Yebba namba pigure thaniya daan iruku... namba romance a start pannuvom ena

“Enna sonnan sotta... nambalalaye ara mani neram thaanga mudiyalaye, yoschi paaraen indha monna naaya kattikitu avan wipe and children padra paaadu... Enna thappu pannanganu therila ivan kita maatiruppainga... cilly guys” endraen enaku therindha style-il

“Edhu da thappu... vayasula moothavarnu kooda paakama ipdi avara kevalama pesriye, idhu daan da thappu... adha vida periya thappu nee pavithrava thappa pesnadhu... enna character da... ponnungaluku respect kudukka theriyadha character... Oru ponna ipdiye panni adhu idhu nu kevalama pesuvanga... Cha ippo dana theriyudhu endha ponnum yaen un kuda pesa maatikudhunu”

Idhuvarai silentaga sirithu kondae avalukaga romantic hero character pannitrundhan theva illama kova paduthi action hero aakitaa...

“Naanum vandhadhulendhu paakran, ellathlayum edhachum kora kandu pudichite iruka... ennavo ungappanayo, thangachiyaya kalaicha madri over a sound vudra... Nee periya olungu madri pesura... nee vayasula periyavangaluku mariyadha kuduthaaa pesra... Cab la varum bodhu enna sonna... Rajni na rajni dan, avana madri style panna oruthan porandhu varanum nu sonna... Kamal Screenla vandha vacha kannu vaangama paapan, enaku avana avlo pudikum nu sonna... Namithava evlo kevalama pesna... avalum ponnu dana... Podi, ungaluku oru nyayam engaluku oru nyaayama... perusa pesa vandhutaa...”

“Look, don’t get mad... Adhu vera... idhu vera... Practical a pesa kathuko first... ok”

“Dhoda... naanga mariyadha kudukra thalaivara iva avan ivanu pesuvalam, engayo panni maeichitu inga vandha sotta naaya naanga respect pannanuma... endha ooru nyayam di idhu” ena nakkalaga sirithaen...

Endha sirippu avaluku migavum pudikum endralo... ippozhudu adhuve avaluku erichal ootiyadhu... “Enough man... Mind your words... Cha... ipdi oru character kita naan illa… evalume pesa maata... Get lost” ena lift ulle enter aagi left side thirumbi kondaal...

Endha lift-il romantic moododu aerinaeno, adhey lift-il romance ellam irangi ground flooruku vandhadaindaen... Dey duwaraga, kavin sonnadhu correct dan.. merkula kooda sooriyan udhchirum... onakindha kaadhal ellam varadhu ena iruvarum oruvarukoruvar pesi kollamal veru vazhiyillamal ondrai nadandhom...

Opposite la dhoorathula red color saree onnu kannula pattudhu... Ada namba kutti sims... enna ivala innaiku ithana vaati paakrom... Sari epdiyo aaradhana moolama kutti sims kita intro panniyachi... epdi develop pandradhunu theriyalaye... ippo edhachum pesi aaganume... adhuvum iva munnadi pesuvom... indha padathula ellam kaatuvaingale... adhu peru enna... hmmm possessiveness... adhu ivaluku varudhanu paapom... ena yosithu kondae pogayil oru mannangatti idea-vum varala... sari ini yosikradhula use illa... spot-la enna varudho adha solliduvom ena.... 2 adi gap-il edhire vandhutrundhava enna paathadhum disc break poatu apdiye ninna... en left-il aaradhana... front-la kutti sims... thanks kadavule... satyama en life la naan oru ponnu koodaye ninnadhilla... 2 ponnunga... adhuvum azhagana ponnunga... nadula naanu... ayyo kavin chellam... ellam un raasi dan da ena aaradhanavai oara kannil paarthu vittu

Kutti sims-ai paarthu sirithaen... avalum sirithaal...

“Sundari, veetuku ponadhum amma kitta solli suthi poatukonga...”

“Edhukunga”

“Illa... innaiku neraya beroda kannu unga mela pattuchanu enaku theriyadhu, but ennoda kannu unga mela neraya vaati pattuchi...”

Vetka pattukondae “Comedy pannadheenga” endral

“Illanga... unmaya dan soldran... Enaku poi soldradhu suthama pudikadhu... Poi soldravanga suthama irundhalum pudikadhu...” ena sollivitu aaradhavanai light-a oru look vittaen... enna dan irundhalum avaloda copy rights venumla...

“Kavidhai ellam neraya ezhudhuveengalo... kavi thuvamave pesreengale...”

“apdi ellam illenga... Edho ungala paathadhum thonichi sollitan...”

“Oh nambitan... Better neenga kavidhai ezhudha start pannunga... periyala varuveenga...”

“Oh sure... But adhuku ungala adikadi meet panna vendiyadhirukume...”

Sirithu kondae “Ungalukaga illatiyum, unga kavidhaigalukaga kandippa meet pandran... ippo kelambran... bye” endral...

Aaaha, ennada idhu... aaradhanava vida kutti sims past-a pickup aagudhu, sari namba pigure enna react pannudhunu thirumbi paartha, onnume pesala, konjam kaduppana madri therinjidhu... Possessiveness strategy workout aagudhu pola… Sari nambale start pannuvom ena

“Thanks aaaradhana... nee illati iva kita kandippa naan pesiruka kooda maatan...”

“Periyala aagiteenga... kavidhai ellam ezhuda poreenga... kalakunga... engalayum konjam nyabagam vachikonga… “

“Nee vera ava edho kalaichitu poara… adha poi unmai nu nambikittu”

“But nee sonna dialogue unmayave kavidha madri dan irundhuchi… gud creativity man… Periya flirt-a varuva”

Ayyayo flirt na ennanu theriyalaye, oru vela periya kavingana irukumo… sari thanks solliduvom ena “Ellam unga dhayavu dan madam… romba thanks”

Romba kevalama oru look vittutu moracha… Apdiye right side thirumbikitu…”Yaen, engala ellam paatha kavidhai varadha”

Edho oru figure ku, ella bit correct a poatom… ippo namba pigure kaekudhu enna soldradhunu theriyalaye… 4 adi eduthu vachitu avala paathan… avalum stop panna… 2 berum face 2 face paathukittom… Black color dress la sooper a irundha…”

“ Devadhaigal vellai nira aadayil daan varuvargal enbadhai indru poi aaki vittai nee” endraen… Tube light ku sariya puriyalanu nenaikran… “Come again come again” endraal aarvathudan… Oh closeup la poi sollanum pola ena oaradi front la poi thirumbavum sonnan… Ponnungaluku dan light a aethi vitta podhume… 1008 expression kuduthu, illa da naan apdilam illa… naan avlo azhagava irukanu mokka poduvangale… adhaey madri ivalum eadho englishla mokka poata… But ava kita innum en mela kobam light-a irundhadha paathan… Namba daan aethi vittutom la... adhanala kovam light-a koranja madri dialogue-a eduthu vita...

“Anyways I shud nt ve scolded you da… kalaikradhu unnoda jollyana character … but periyavangaluku nee respect kudukadhu enaku still it hurts da… Adhan kathitan… Anyways sorry 4 shouting at you… Sorry duwaragai” endral face ai dullaga vaithu kondu…

“Sorry ellam vendam… light-a sirichidu podhum…” endraen sirithu kondae…

Kai-il vaithirundha rolled paper-al Ennai chellamai adithu vittu Sirithu kondae “This should be our first and last misunderstanding ok va… Ini edhuva irundhalum sanda podama pesikalam… ok” endral kuzhandhai thanamaga…

“Adhan Miss a understand panna aarambichitane, idhuku apparam enna misunderstanding… ok ok…” endraen…

Namba daan edhu nadandhalum namba CUG moolama namba Kalyan and manicku solliduvome… udane phone pannan… avanungalum enna madri software engineers dan… so eppavume vettiya thaan iruppainga… lovers a vida adhigama naanga dan phone la pesiruppomnu nenaikran… full day nadandha matter a sonnan… avanunga dan sonnanga... idhu dan mapla loves… unaku adhu vandhuruchi nu… adhuvum maani confirma andha ponnu unna dan da love pannudhu nu sonnan… enakum light-a nadandhadha thirumba rewind panni paaka solla daan... avaloda china china expressions, avaloda style, avaloda smile ellam repeat audience madri thirumba thirumba nenaika thonichi… Dhum-a patha vachi, seathu chiyan madri Nenachi nenachi thavichi thavichi paatu paadanum pola thonichi… night 7 mani aaachi… sari KT poi attend pannuvome nu ulla poi ukkandha…

“Good Morning folks” endral vellakaari… Sorry client

Aaaradhana appozhudu dan ulle nuzhaigiral…

Kizhake udhirtha sooriyan en vaazhvil indha KT moolam Merke udhirka thodangiyadhu…

Kaathirungal... Kaadhalin kadaisi athiyayathirku... - ??!!

Its longtime since I blogged. Wanted to post about a lot of things. Fortnight back I even started typing out something but then couldn’t complete it and it’s just left ‘saved as draft’. Yet to be edited and posted. Lot of things left unsaid. Either there isn’t time or “D MOOD” is not there. Will resume blogging soon. For now have fun reading the part 2 of Subbu’s story.

Yesterday I got to learn from the news channels that Aarushi’s murder case is still left unsolved. None of the convicts are charge sheeted. The CBI is having a tough time as there is no clue, no material evidence that will stand the scrutiny of law against those convicts. They were showing pictures and videos of that 14 year old lil’ girl in those channels with that smile glued to her face. A lil’ pretty, dainty! My eyes were glistening.

How much of pain that child would have undergone when that 2 footed animal hurt her and killed her? The news reader says the case is still left unsolved just because of the lethargy of the UP police who were merely unconcerned about finding the evidence within the first 48 or 72 hours. Don’t know what made them to do something like that? Police being unconcerned or irresponsible???!!? The CBI only took up the case a month or so later and started the investigation anew. No material evidence now! The victim’s cellphone is missing and the murder weapon is unfound. What were the police doing in the first 72 hours without gathering prop evidence? Mere carelessness!

And now the convicts are getting bail since they are not charge sheeted!

CBI can file charge sheet only after probe is over and some evidence is found!

God help the CBI! I pray…

I wish and pray that the case is solved soon and that 2-footed animal whichever (I wont use who here! That’s used only for a human being!) hurt Aarushi is hanged to death sooner!

And let the lil’ girl’s soul rest in peace…